Parenting Information

Understanding The Report


"No thank you.  Don't bother to send me the report about the testing results.  I won't understand it anyway.  I'll just listen at the meeting."

Those were the words of more than one parent I spoke with whose children had been tested to see if they  needed special education services. I could always hear the  discouragement in their voices as they spoke.

I heard the same tone of voice in a person a little closer to home just recently.  A relative of mine has a son  who has just been evaluated, and the parents had been given  a copy of the report.  He and his wife both have college  educations, and they still had difficulty understanding what  was being said.  He looked totally helpless as he showed me  the paperwork.

It's important to realize that every occupation in life has it's own terms, and special education is no different.   Unless you work in that occupation on a daily basis, you can't  be expected to know what those terms mean  -  not much  consolation when it's your child's education and success that  are at stake.

The good news is that there is help out there.

Here are some suggestions for how you can become an informed, active participant in the meeting:
 
 1)  Contact the special education office in your school district.  Either  someone there can explain  it to you, or they can tell you who to talk with to  help you understand the report.

 2)  Set up an appointment to speak with the special education person in your child's school.

If you can't get the information you want through the special education office for some reason, call and  decide on a mutually convenient time when you can meet  with the special education teacher and discuss the results.   Perhaps you can even discuss what the recommendations might  be regarding the best placement and the best program for  your child.

This way, when you go into the meeting, you will be more prepared.

 3)  Take notes as you discuss the report. If you take notes from the discussion, then you will have ready  information to take into the meeting, and you won't  be bogged down having to find the information in  the report.

 4)  If you still have trouble understanding, you can contact your state Learning Disabilities Association.  They will have answers for you and they may be able to  suggest someone to go to the meeting with you to help  you understand what is going on.

 5)  Know that it's okay to take someone into the meeting with you for support. Facing a group of  professionals can be scary, whether you have a  college degree or not. Having support with you can be  very comforting, and if that support is someone who  understands the process better than you, that's  a bonus!

Remember, you are NOT alone in this process.  You have a team of people who are there to help your child be successful.  And working together as a team is the best way to make that  happen.  But, you have to play an active role in that team in  order for your child to get the best services possible, and  that may mean searching out people who can help you understand  and take charge.

For more plain talk about learning disabilities, please visit us at www.ldperspectives.com.

About the Author
Sandy Gauvin is a retired educator who has seen learning disabilities from many perspectives - as the parent of a  daughter with learning disabilities, as the teacher of  children with learning disabilities, and as an advocate  for others who have diagnosed and unrecognized learning  disabilities. Sandy shares her wisdom and her resources  at www.LDPerspectives.com.


MORE RESOURCES:

Parenting tip: Use honesty, not lies, to get child to behave
Savannah Morning News
It is OK to tell your child, "Because I am the parent and I said so." This is giving your child honest directions and a great reason to do as you tell them.

and more »


Dialing down tensions over family money
Minneapolis Star Tribune
And the Parenting Oasis is wonderful, check it out! INFO Parenting Oasis South: 3901 Chicago Av., Mpls. 55407 Parenting Oasis North: ...

and more »


Sydney Morning Herald

Our dads better than yours: Aussies lead world in parenting
Sydney Morning Herald
''Intensive parenting seems to be a phenomenon of Anglo countries,'' she says. ''Australian men and women -but especially women - spend more time with their ...

and more »


Expectant mom takes parenting baby steps
Boston Herald
Q. I am having my first child in three months. Besides caring for an infant and safety issues, can you give me some ...



Tots often keeping Canadians up at night: study
Vancouver Sun
“In parenting, there's things that work for one that won't work for others.” John Hoffman, Today's Parent columnist and contributing editor, ...

and more »


Editorial: Parenting 101
Philadelphia Inquirer
Good parenting cannot be legislated - even with the threat of a $2500 fine or jail time to hold parents more accountable. The measure, proposed by State Sen ...

and more »


Authors Debate The Merits Of Parenting Advice
NPR
Ada Calhoun, author of Instinctive Parenting, makes the case that children will turn out fine if parents simply trust their gut. But Po Bronson, co-author ...
Do We Parent By The Book Or By The Gut?NPR (blog)
Instinctive Parenting: Q and A with Ada CalhounTrue/Slant
Point: Close The Parenting Book, Trust Your InstinctsNPR
NPR
all 9 news articles »


Parent Institute Day conference Friday
Southtown Star
Good Shepherd Center will host its 19th annual Parent Institute Day conference from 7:30 am to 3 pm. Friday at Prairie State College, 202 S. Halsted St., ...



Centers help Spanish-speaking parents get involved
Las Cruces Sun-News
LAS CRUCES — Clara Esparza, 31, sits in the library at MacArthur Elementary School, listening to family educator Olga Aizpuru explain parenting concepts in ...



New York Times (blog)

Creative Parenting | Family Crafting at the Ace Palm Springs
New York Times (blog)
Like a lot of creative parents these days, Karen Kimmel wants a plastic-free, junk-food-free, theme-park-free, all-things-tacky-free life for her family. ...


Google News

home | site map
© 2006